What I want…

What I want

So, I was told that I need to  make a list of everything that I want in a guy/relationship and “throw it out to the universe”  So, here we go….

  1. He needs to be able to accept and get along with my daughter, who is an artistic eccentric type and is highly  intelligent.
  2. Someone I can pray with and go to church with. 
  3. Belly laughs. I want someone I can laugh so hard with that it makes my belly hurt.
  4. A creative, artistic and/or eccentric type…someone unique and different. I’ve always been drawn more to these types. They “get” me better then other types do. I know this for sure because I’ve tried them all.
  5. A soul connection…I want a real true deep soul connection
  6. Someone I can crawl up next to and cuddle with without having to say a word.
  7. Someone I can share my darkest secrets with and open up to about my hopes and dreams.
  8. I want “him” to be someone more successful than me. So that he has to pull me up to meet him at his level. Thus far, I’ve always had to pull up men to meet me.It’s very exhausting and I m tired of being the one that brings more to the table. 
  9. Chemistry, attraction, flirting and light hearted fun!
  10. Loyalty, honesty and faithfulness
  11. Crazy, intense, hot sex and private intimate moments that I share only with him.
  12. He must be patient and understanding. I have a huge heart but I’ve been single for a long time now. I’ve become fiercely independent and “set in my ways”. I will need to learn how to incorporate someone else in my life. Its something that I want to learn how to do and I’m more then willing to learn how to compromise. I very much know it’s not just about me. However, he will have to be patient as I learn. That’s one of the biggest reasons that things didn’t last very long in past relationships. They just couldn’t be patient and/or accept my independence. I’m very much worth the wait and effort. I’ve learned a lot from past mistakes and ready to have a real chance and I want to be “one” with someone again
  13. Someone that loves Nola as much as I do
  14. Someone that loves music. I love live music and concerts…and always end up front stage
  15. Someone that loves to travel and can take me to places that I’ve never been to before.
  1. A cute butt, a pretty smile and a nice smooth hairless chest 🙂
  2. He has to know how to cook. I think it’s so sexy when a man knows how to cook!
  3. Flowers—for once in my life, I want a man to order flowers for me and have them delivered to me at work. I’ve never had that happen to me before and I’m always watching other women in secret envy. I want to be envied for once 🙂
  4. Someone that is a true gentlemen and can treat me with respect and can appreciate my attributes. 
  5. Intelligence is so sexy to me!!! I want someone that I can have deep conversations with! 
  6. Someone that knows how to dress!!! Shoes are very important and it’s one of the first thing that I notice. No white tennis shoes with blue jeans please!!! I like seeing men in suits, sports coats, etc. NOOOOOO wrangler jeans or cowboy hats please
  7. Either a full head of hair or bald—nothing in between
  8. NO 1970’s port star want to be mustaches please
  9. Active and young minded like I am
  10. No country living please. I’m more of a city girl
  11. He must have his life together and want a “real” relationship too.
  12. Family—I have a very small family that is largely compromised of friends that I ve made my family. So, I’d love someone with a large loving family that I can eventually be a part of. It s something that I ve never really had before. 
  13. He must believe in monogamy…and understand that I don’t want sex without it being established beforehand. That s something I’m adamant about. 
  14. He must accept my dogs. I don’t need him to love and spoil them like I do, just to accept they are part of my life
  15. Communication-he must know the value of communication, being direct and  honest. 
  16. Someone that will slow dance with me to my fave Mazzy Star song 🙂 
  17. Someone with old fashioned values and morals.
  18. Someone that adores me and makes me feel loved, wanted and that I m an important part of his life. 
  19. I have a career, not a job. I am the Senior Prior Authorization nurse for my states most reputable contracted Medicaid company. I work with a lot of very important medical and business people with big long titles. My career is important to me. Besides my daughter, its all that I really have and I ve worked very hard to get where I am in my career. I stay very busy and cant always immediately answer texts, calls emails etc. So “he” needs to understand that.  I ve lost lots of potentials over my career- because they want a woman to always be readily available at the drop of a hat. I also commute almost 2 hours daily, which doesn’t help.  One day, if I meet “him” and get married, I d be happy to slow it all down. For now though, it allows me to be financially independent and I need “him” to be supportive and understanding of it. 
  20. Someone that thinks I m worth fighting for and would fight for me in the same way that I d fight for him. 
  21. Someone willing to give me all that I m willing to give him. 

So there you go “universe”. Take that…..and maybe send it to me. 🙂


2 thoughts on “What I want…”

  1. I was in a abusive marriage for 22 years. He was abusive in every way but physical! But it was all behind closed doors. When we were in public our friends and families thought we had the best marriage in the world. I was very good at hiding things and burying things. I knew when I came home from the hospital with my second child, a boy, that my marriage was over but I was so beat down that I didn’t think I could leave him. I stayed till my son was 17 and then realized it was either stay married to him and succeed at the second of two suicide attempts or get the hell out! By the grace of God I left. Two years later I met my soulmate. He was everything I dreamed a man should be and more. He taught me what real love was/is. We dated a year and a half and he was diagnosed with melanoma. Six months later he died in my arms and took my heart with him. He was 47 years old. I have done the whole on line dating and all I got were very strange men and even a few women?!? I decided to just accept that I will live alone but there are nights when I ache just for a hug if nothing else! I have a lot of trust issues for several reasons and I am a introvert, so meeting guys is hard for me!
    You and I seem to have a lot of the same interest in common and I regret not spending time over the weekend talking to you! I think we could have been friends. Sorry this is so long, I write better than I talk! I hope you are well! Much peace and love!


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